And so you get to work making your New Year’s wish list, enthusiastically listing everything you will commit to during the coming year: the new diet and exercise regime, regular one-on-one time with your family, quitting smoking and even finally getting around to volunteering for that one Saturday a month at the local op shop. The only problem is that by the second week of January all that you had promised to change has simply fallen by the wayside, leaving you back in your regular old patterns and re-enforcing your old belief that change for you is simply impossible.
The above scenario is sadly not only incredibly common, but can leave you with a ‘bad taste in your mouth’ when it comes to goal-setting: often preventing you from ever attempting to list what you want from life again. And although it’s little consolation, you’re not alone: results of a British university study just released today state that most New Year’s resolutions fail, so you could be excused for giving up on aiming big at the start of 2010.
So how DO you succeed at your New Year’s Resolutions?
What is needed for you to break this self-defeating pattern is to take this task from being a daunting and pessimistic process and transform it into an exciting and rewarding one. Here are a few simple tips to guide you, along with some Australian Bush Flower Essences that you can use to help you overcome any obstacles which have succeeded in tripping you up in the past: leaving you instead with an incredibly useful roadmap for the year ahead.
Tip # 1: Acknowledge your life in 2009
This step is often sorely forgotten, but is very important to give you the confidence to create further achievements in your life. Philotheca is the Bush Flower Essence to help you with acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small and insignificant they may seem in the face of your huge goals. While taking this remedy, sit down with a notepad and pen (or open a word processing file on your computer) and revise in your mind the events of each month in the past year, making a list of every little thing you have done or achieved this year (from managing to juggle your parenting commitments with your job, right down to each time you remembered to get up a few minutes earlier and plan your day). You’ll be surprised at how good you feel after this simple exercise and how motivated you begin to feel about planning for the next year!
Tip # 2: Forget about every ‘failed’ attempt at New Year’s Resolutions in the past.
This tip is an incredibly important one, as it allows us to remember we are human and have made mistakes in the past – which in turn is the impetus for wanting to improve in the future. Taking the Bush Essence Dagger Hakea may be helpful for learning to forgive yourself for what you perceive as failure, while some Kapok Bush may also be useful to give you the willingness to try again to set goals for a New Year. And if you are still afraid that you won’t follow through and will not achieve your goals if you set them, the Bush Essence Wedding Bush will also help you to commit to what it is you want to achieve or change in 2010, giving you more confidence to follow through on your plans.
Tip # 3: If money were no object, what would you want to have, do or be?
This tip may sound like it belongs in a child’s game of imagination, but it may be that it is time we adults took a dose of the Bush Essence Little Flannel Flower and stepped out of ‘reality’ for a while and into the mind of our inner child! The actual reality in fact is that we allow our current state of finances to dictate what we are able to aim for in our lives. Instead, it should be the other way around, with our goal dictating and therefore attracting to us the means that the universe needs to provide us with. Rather than doubting that this could possibly work and following mainstream thought, I urge you to test this tip in just one area of your life. A good Bush Flower Essence to help you here might be Five Corners to give you the self-esteem to believe that you can have anything you want in life, while another great remedy would definitely be Christmas Bell to bring your goals into physical manifestation right before your eyes!
Tip # 4: Follow ‘The Way of the Tortoise’
We all know the story of the tortoise and the hare: the hare rushes to the finish line with no preparation and only speed on his side, doomed to fail if he encounters any unforeseen obstacles. The tortoise, despite looking like he will never get to the finish line, instead works on the principle of breaking down the journey into a step-by-step plan and his slow pace actually benefits him by enabling him to correct course quickly should obstacles appear suddenly in his path. This same method can be applied to your goal-setting and achievement process: instead of setting the bar so high that you need to leap it in one go or feel a sense of failure if you don’t, instead try planning for the end result, but give yourself little milestones that you can achieve along the way. This way you know when you have made progress towards your goal, and you will also feel a sense of achievement regularly that will keep you motivated. As ancient Chinese philosopher Lao-tzu wrote in ‘The Way of Lao-tzu, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”, and this is important advice for you: not only encouraging you to congratulate yourself on the small steps you make towards your end goal but also urging you to be patient with your rate of progress. Black- Eyed Susan is the remedy to help you to be patient enough to allow your path to unfold in the most perfect way, while ensuring that you are kind to yourself along the way.
Tip # 5: Ask for help!
Something many of us are not very good at is asking others to help support our goals and this is one of the contributing factors to our failure. For instance, if your goal was to quit smoking it would make sense to ask your family and friends to help support your decision and motivate you whenever you are tempted to break your resolution. A support group around you will not only strengthen your resolve when you seem doomed to return to your old ways, but will also enable your loved ones to be a part of both your challenges and your victories when you finally succeed. But often we are too proud or ashamed to ask others to help us: instead wanting to show them we are strong enough to do it alone (and often strength is more visible when one has the courage and wisdom to ask for help!). One Bush Essence that may help us to ask others for support is Flannel Flower as it will help you to reach out to others and trust them to support you in your goals. Another remedy that may help is Waratah as it will help you to build the courage to not only pursue what you want, but to realise that others will not see you as weak when you ask them for their help and support.
Put these tips into practice and be kind to yourself while moving towards your goals in 2010, and you will be well on your way to your first year of really achieving whatever it is you aim for.
Have you got any tips of your own or any Australian Bush Flower Essences you would like to suggest to help with New Year’s resolutions? Just post them below this article so others can benefit from them as well!
Until next time, be well!
Clare ~ Baliena Flower Therapies
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